I recently had the pleasure of meeting a dear friend for lunch. While driving to the restaurant to meet her I had the radio on and the first song that came on the radio was Hold On sung by Wilson Phillips. I rarely have the car radio on and I felt compelled to listen to the lyrics. I have heard this tune played dozens of times but in that moment I was truly present. It is a peppy simple song. The words are so profound that perhaps I hadn’t given it much attention before now. The synchronicity of hearing that song at that time was that my friend whom I was meeting at that moment had just undergone some very significant positive changes in her personal life. The lyrics were so apropos I was elated by the messages the song was imparting. Here are some of the lyrics that I’d like to share:
I know this pain
Why do lock yourself up in these chains?
No one can change your life except for you
Don't ever let anyone step all over you
Just open your heart and your mind
Is it really fair to feel this way inside?
No one can make the needed changes for your life. You hold the ability and the inner power to decide what is best for you. You are the only one to determinate what you feel is right and in your best interest. Open yourself up by listening to your inner voice to live your version of your life. Create your own plan not someone else’s.
You could sustain
Or are you comfortable with the pain?
You've got no one to blame for your unhappiness
You got yourself into your own mess
Lettin' your worries pass you by
Don't you think it's worth your time
To change your mind?
Ask yourself these questions and listen to what comes up for you:
What are you putting up with?
What is holding you back from moving forward with what results you wish to achieve?
How uncomfortable are you willing to be before you initiate a change?
Who is responsible for your happiness?
When are you ready to move out of the pain?
Just like the chorus of Hold On that repeats over and over again:
Don't you know things can change
Things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day
Can you hold on one more day? By the way one week later, while driving I put the radio on and guess what song I heard? I suppose the universe wanted me to hear this valuable message again. I immensely enjoyed this coincidence.
I recently came across an article that I felt was worth keeping & I’ll let you know why. The article was about an author & the first editor of MS Magazine Suzanne Braun Levine, who just turned 50 and was celebrating the “change of life” & her newly felt sense of liberation. She has a new book titled “Fifty Is the New Fifty” a self guided 10 step program to encourage women to celebrate themselves & focus less on anti-aging. One theme really got my immediate attention and it does not just relate to women.
I define someone as selfish as a person who is heavily focused on satisfying their own needs first & foremost & often ignoring the needs of others. They tend to be very self absorbed & self centered. The “center of the universe” as if everything revolves around them. Do you know someone who fits this description in your life? Are you guilty of this concept?
“Self-full” means to put yourself first on the list & to take better care of you. Being self-full really means that you become aware & learn to master how to sustain yourself without being selfish to others. Ms. Braun Levine illustrates this point with an example she called “the oxygen mask lesson.” For your own safety, as a passenger on a plane you are instructed to put the oxygen mask on first & then proceed to help others. The message is that you need enough oxygen to sustain yourself; otherwise you will not be able to sustain others.
Take the time to be mindful if you are being selfish or becoming self-full. There is a definite distinction & you will benefit from being aware of who you truly are.