To better solve almost every personal quandary in your life there exists a simple and quick method to ease the discomfort associated with effective decision-making. A quick guide that I discovered many years ago came from a book titled, 10-10-10, 10 Minutes, 10 Months, 10 Years, A Life Transforming Idea by the author Suzy Welch.
She devised a system to help balance one's multiple roles, (both professionally and personally), as well as to better navigate any of the daily dilemmas that fill up an over planned existence. She termed this technique the 10-10-10 Rule.
How does this work?
Simply, each time you find yourself in a situation where there appears to be no easy solution that will make yourself happy or others, you ask yourself these three powerful questions:
What are the consequences of my decision in the next 10 minutes?
What are the consequences of my decision in the next 10 months?
What are the consequences of my decision in the next 10 years?
The answers usually will inform you of what you need to know. It is a great way to 'check -in' with yourself. They will assist you to not only to make the most reasoned move for yourself but also to explain (if needed) your choice to those impacted by your decision. The use of these profound questions when you feel yourself stuck and not sure what to do next can help you transform any uneasiness into a much clearer perspective.
"Truly successful decision-making relies on a balance between deliberate and instinctive thinking." - Malcolm Gladwell