IT IS, WHAT IT IS – HOW TO MAKE PEACE WITH YOURSELF

“If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the universe against me.”
-  Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

On our path through our lives we often get “stuck.” A situation presents itself that we would rather not have to deal with. You may want to wish it away or just ignore it altogether. The challenge is for you to decide what you are able and willing to do about it. It is, what it is, right? You will help yourself navigate your life much better when you do go with the flow of the universe rather than trying to go against the currents.

 

Whatever the “it is” for you, this experience has manifested itself for you to learn something valuable from it. I have been reading an interesting book, titled Pocket Peace, by Allan Lokos that gives insight into practical effective practices for enlightened living. One of the suggestions he offered was really profound for me and I can relate to it and also for everyone else. It is: Consider how your discomfort with a particular situation might be eased by accepting things as they are.

 

The author believes that suffering usually results from wanting things to be different from the way they are. He recommends giving yourself some quiet time to reflect while opening your heart and mind to change your perspective. To remind yourself that even if a particular difficult situation you are now confronting seems insurmountable, it is not fixed or solid. It will change somehow, some way. Then, even after your contemplation you deem the situation to be unacceptable; you will be calmer in dealing with it and developing an improved, more grounded viewpoint. Therefore, the lesson here is a tough one to learn when you really want things to be different than they are in reality. You may not be able to change what has happened, but you do have the ability to begin the process of your acceptance of it. What one resists, does persist. Once you have begun to gracefully accept the problem, you will give then yourself the gift of perseverance and inner strength to impact  and guide your future outcomes. Accept it for what it is, and then feel the tension and anxiety diminish inside you. Be at peace with yourself.

 

As always, I invite your comments.